When a Man Says He’s Unhappy in His Marriage, He’s Either Cheating or Thinking About It Let’s cut straight to the chase. When a man starts throwing around the phrase “I’m unhappy in this marriage,” it’s rarely the innocent self-reflection it pretends to be. In my experience (and trust me, I’ve got field notes ), those words are usually a red flag so massive it could signal a parade of lies, infidelity, or, at the very least, an audition for the next season of Emotional Manipulators Gone Wild. Here’s the thing: Men don’t just wake up one day and feel “unhappy” in their marriage. They’ve been stewing on it, justifying their feelings to themselves, and—let’s be real—many times they’ve already found a convenient “distraction” to help them cope. And by distraction, I mean a female friend, colleague, or that one “nice” girl who’s always ready to listen to his sob stories about how misunderstood he feels. Unhappiness = Excuse, Not Reason Let’s be brutally honest: unhappiness i...